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A Rescued Dog’s Weird Behavior, Part 4, Building Confidence

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009

Confidence 101: Kelsey chasing Canada geese. See the full video on our home page.

Confidence 101: Kelsey chasing Canada geese. See the full video on our home page.

This is the last in a 4-part series about how to cope with and resolve your rescued dog’s weird behavior. By the end of this article, you will know how to build up your dog’s confidence. It should be a lot of fun for the both of you.
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In the last two articles, we talked about the value of ignoring weird behavior and encouraging good behavior as a substitute. Now we are at the point where you will help your dog build confidence. An unstressed, worry-free dog has no reason to engage in coping behavior

Confidence Is

When I use the word confident, I am talking about a dog that focuses on doing what a dog does naturally without worrying about negative reactions from people. I don’t mean a confident dog is one that pees all over your house without worry. I mean, your dog can go outside, have fun, and not expect to be punished for being himself.

Shyness

Many, but certainly not all, rescued dogs are extremely shy. This shyness comes from not knowing where a dog fits in among people. Many rescued dogs are abused or abandoned for reasons that are not apparent to the dog. When a dog can’t make sense of why its being punished, the dog shuts down emotionally. Behaviorists call this “Whipped Dog Syndrome.” Some rescued dogs end up in rescue situations because they are naturally shy. I know it may seem ridiculous to you, but some people reject dogs that do not live up their expectations of a lively pet.

Other rescued dogs display a lack of confidence by behaving aggressively. It seems counter-intuitive. A dog lacking confidence can hold the world at bay by threatening anything and anyone that gets too close. Dogs displaying this type of behavior are known as “sharp shy.”

The Treatment

Luckily for us, the treatment for shy and sharp shy dogs is the same: build confidence. Here’s how to do it.

First, identify activities that your dog enjoys. The only way to do this is to expose your dog to a wide variety of situations and monitor his behavior. The “go” sign is alertness without fear:

One of the best ways to introduce your dog to a new activity is to lead him on a loose leash. If he pulls ahead, he wants to give it a try. If he lags behind, he’s not sure. If he stalls or turns the opposite direction, it’s a no-go for now. If your dog hesitates, you don’t need to retreat immediately, but you should not force him into the activity. Give him time to decide.

Expect–Nothing

Now is as good a time as any to talk about your expectations. Get rid of them. I mean, don’t force your dog to do anything just because you believe its good for him. For example, just because you believe your water dog should dive into the lake for a swim the first time he sees the water does not mean your water dog is ready to swim right now. Maybe he just wants to stretch out on the shore and enjoy the sun. A shy dog needs time and breathing room to explore new activities. When he’s ready to go, he’ll tell you; and he may never be ready. That’s okay, because the last thing your shy dog needs is to be forced into another situation that makes him uncomfortable. He’s already been there and done that.

On the flip side, don’t worry and fret your dog might not enjoy an activity. Go in with an open mind and give your dog a chance to adjust. If the activity is his cup of tea, he’ll come around in time. Let him go at his own pace.

And please don’t become the classic soccer mom or soccer dad, shuttling your dog around to five special events a day to “stimulate his growth.” His job, and your job, is to adjust to a normal family lifestyle, not to transform him into a canine wonder dog.

Places to Be. Things to Try.

Here is a short list of activities that many dogs find enjoyable. (Notice how simple these are:)

  • Walking through the neighborhood.
  • Hiking in the woods.
  • Walking on the beach.
  • Jogging with you.
  • Playing fetch.
  • Getting tickled.
  • Playing hide and seek with a bone, a toy, or with you.
  • Chasing rabbits or birds in an open field.
  • Jumping in and out of the water at the beach.
  • Swimming.

Find what works for your dog and let him dive in when he’s ready. Over time, nature will take its course. Your dog’s confidence will build and displace his worries. Weird coping behavior will diminish because it will no longer be necessary.

Take Action:
  1. Start exploring simple and enjoyable activities with your dog.
  2. Note what your dog enjoys and what your dog avoids. Emphasize enjoyment and forget about the rest.
  3. Watch your dog blossom as he builds confidence.

Tell Us What You Think:
What kinds of activities does your dog enjoy?
Do you have a story about a rescued dog that improved as he explored and began to enjoy life?
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A Rescue Dog’s Weird Behavior, Part 3, Substitute Good for Bad

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

<center>Hiding under the bed<p><small><em>(photo courtesy of lucianvenutian@flickr.com*)</em></small></p></center>

Hiding under the bed

(photo courtesy of lucianvenutian@flickr.com*)

By the end of this series of articles, you are going to know how to cope with and change the weird behavior of your rescued small dog. In today’s article, I am going to show you how to replace your rescued dog’s weird behavior with behavior you can live with.

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Here is a very important concept to hang onto:

Dogs want to be shown the way.

Let me say that again:

Dogs want to be shown the way.

I don’t care how stubborn your dog seems to be, he wants to know what’s expected of him. If your dog was able to understand and appreciate going to the movies, mystery movies would not be at the top of his list. Dogs want, and need to know, what is going to happen next.

Why is this Important?

Rescued dogs, (before they are rescued,) usually live unpredictable, and therefore miserable dog lives. Here are some of the circumstances that make their lives miserable:

  • Abandonment leaves them fending for themselves in an unpredictable world.
  • Isolation leaves them wondering when and where the next interaction with people or other animals might happen.
  • Physical abuse is random pain and chaos that makes absolutely no sense to a dog.

It’s no wonder your rescued dog exhibits weird behaviors. He’s doing everything he can to cope with the uncertainty in his life. You may say yes, but he’s with me now. He’s okay. Nothing can harm him.

He doesn’t know that. All he has known up until this point is that life has sucked. His transfer to your home is just another step in a series of unpredictable occurrences. If you really want him to understand his life has changed for the better, your job is to give him something positive and predictable to do.

What to Dog Right Now

Here’s how to do it. First, as I said in part 2 of this series, ignore the weird behavior your dog puts out, as long as the behavior is not harmful. Weird behavior may not make sense to you, but it does help your dog cope with stress. Second, give your dog positive and rewarding tasks that pull him away from his weird behavior. Third, do those positive things the same way every day.

Here are some examples of positive tasks:

  • Taking a walk with you.
  • Learning obedience behavior.
  • Playing fetch either as play or as a household service, e.g. fetch your shoes, etc.
  • Joining you outside to get the mail or the newspaper.
  • Playing tug-o-war with you.

Notice all of the examples involve movement, with no idle time. Your dog will most likely engage in his coping behaviors when he has nothing else to do. Some activities, while pleasant, don’t really give your dog anything to do. For example, while riding with you in the car around town may seem like a pleasant task, your dog will likely spend most of the time laying down or staring out of the window. It doesn’t demand much from your dog.

Don’t Run Yourself Ragged

I’m not saying you have to run yourself ragged all day just to keep your dog actively engaged. What I am saying is, when you notice your dog lapsing into coping behavior, give him something else to do that you both enjoy.

Be Consistent

When you do give your dog a task, try to do it the same way everyday. Set up patterns and rituals for your dog that he was so sorely missing in his previous life. If you stay consistent and positive in your approach to giving your dog tasks, you will notice, over time, your dog spends less and less energy on weird behavior, and more time relaxing during his idle time. Why? Because you have shown him the way: a time, place, and method for doing tasks that he can count on. Mystery solved!

Take Action:
  1. Come up with a list of 8-10 positive activities for your dog and write them down in your journal.
  2. If an activity requires training, read up on how to train your dog to do that activity. You will find some resources right here at www.asmalldog.com. I also recommend reading and following Let the Dog Decide, a great training book for shy dogs, by Dale Stavroff.
  3. When you notice your dog beginning a (weird) coping behavior, engage him in one of the activities you had written in your journal.


Let Us Know What You Think:

Tell our community of small dog lovers some of the activities you like to do with your small dog. If nothing else, write something, anything, in the comment section below just to let me know you are alive and thinking about what you’ve just read.

*The opinions expressed in this article are my own and not necessarily those of the provider of the attached photo. I make no claim that the dog in the attached photo is a rescued dog, nor that it has any behavior problems.

A Rescue Dog’s Weird Behavior, Part 2 Ignoring Weird Behavior

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

Strange days. (photo provided courtesy of thegordons@flickr.com*)

Strange days.

(photo provided courtesy of thegordons@flickr.com*)


By the end of this series of articles, you are going to know how to cope with and change the weird behavior of your rescued small dog. In today’s article, I am going to show you why it’s so important to ignore your rescue dog’s weird behavior. I’ll also have some action steps for how to cope with the stress of weird dog behavior.
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Let me lay this on the line from the get-go. Dogs have no sense of morality. They do not inherently know right from wrong. All they know is: This works, and that doesn’t work. A behavior either helps the dog get what it wants, or it doesn’t.

The Moral of the Story is . . .

You can teach morality to a dog, or more correctly, you can teach your version of morality. You do this by rewarding certain behaviors, and ignoring or punishing other behaviors. Even after training, your dog will not have a moral code, per se. He will learn to behave in ways that you believe are right, and avoid behaviors you believe are wrong.

I bring this up because some of us believe our dogs are “bad.” We believe they intentionally do things to violate our trust, try our patience, and challenge our authority. When a dog violates our trust or tries our patience, he is not carrying on an internal conversation with himself to the tune of “Let’s drive the human crazy!” A violation of trust or test of our patience is our own human interpretation of what the dog is doing. The dog is just doing what comes naturally to a dog.

It Makes No Sense, Even for A Dog

Let’s talk about dog behavior that simply makes no sense to us. Rescued dogs often enter our lives with a broad repertoire of what we might call “weird behavior.” Examples:

  • Hiding under the bed for no apparent reason.
  • Barking incessantly.
  • Chasing own tail.
  • Pacing.
  • Whining.
  • Chewing or digging holes.

The list goes on.

It Does Make Sense—To the Dog

How are any of these weird behaviors helping the dog? Answer: they all help the dog cope with stress. For example, when a dog hides under the bed, he is placing a barrier between himself and whatever he feels is threatening. A dog that barks incessantly can either be:

  • Trying to hold a threat off by counter-threatening with a bark.
  • Self-stimulating to drown out stress.
  • Blowing off pent up worry.
  • Calling for help.

Each example of weird behavior is not weird for the dog when the behavior is placed in context. It’s not hard to guess a rescued dog’s context. It’s past life was unstable, to say the least. When it first arrives in your home, it has no idea what to expect. Combine past troubles with the uncertainty of here and now, and you get a nervous dog. Further, and this is even more likely, many of the weird behaviors you see in your rescued dog were probably established well before he arrived in your home.

What We Do

The two common human responses to weird dog behavior are:

  • Worry; and,
  • Frustration

If you worry and fret over your dog’s weird behavior, the natural human response is to try and comfort the dog. When you hug and pet a dog that is acting strangely, your response rewards and reinforces the dog’s weird behavior. Remember, dogs only do what works for them. If whining and pacing invites comforting strokes from a human, then pacing and whining works for the dog. It’s going to continue.

If your response to incessant barking is a frustrated outburst of anger, you’ve just poured gasoline on your dog’s fire. The dog’s stress will magnify. The barking will no doubt stop for a moment because your outburst startled the dog. Once the initial shock is over, your dog is likely to resume barking, probably at a higher pitch.

The Answer, in Two-Part Harmony

What’s the answer? It’s twofold. First, as long as your dog’s weird behavior is not causing any damage to the dog, yourself, your family, your neighbors, or your house, ignore the bad behavior. Your goal is to not give your dog any more reason to continue or magnify the behavior. Second, you must give the dog something better to do—a substitute behavior.

I’ll get into how to substitute another behavior in my next article. For now, these are the take-aways:

When your rescued dog acts strangely, realize:

He’s not plotting to drive you insane, he’s just being a dog;
It’s a product of his past, plus his uncertainty about the present;
Your worried or angry response will only make his behavior worse.

Take Action:
  1. Come up with a personal game plan with the steps you are going to take to keep yourself calm and unworried when your dog acts strangely. Write the game plan into your journal.
  2. Discuss what’s going on with your family, friends, and anyone else who has frequent contact with your dog. Be sure to explain your game plan and get everyone on board. Your effective plan can be wiped out by one uncooperative relative or friend.
  3. Watch for my next article that discusses how to re-direct your dog towards behavior you can live with.


Tell Us What You Think:

The rest of your small dog community would like to know how your dog behaves strangely and why you think he’s doing this. Let us know by writing a quick blurb in the comments section below this article. At the very least, write something–anything–to let me know you are alive and thinking about this article.

*The opinions expressed in this article are my own and not necessarily those of the provider of the attached photograph. I make no claim that the dog pictured is a rescue animal, nor that it has any problems whatsoever.

What to Expect from Your New Rescue Dog

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

Strange days ahead.

Strange days ahead.

Congratulations, Sir or Madam, on selecting your new rescue dog! We know you will enjoy many years of satisfaction with your rescue dog. Your rescue dog has been designed with the very latest features in canine technology to provide maximum comfort, convenience, and safety for you and your whole family.

Your rescue dog comes with a limited warranty.
Your dog’s warranty requires you to read, understand, and carefully follow all safety and operating instructions included in this manual.

Warning:
Failure to comply with the terms of this warranty may void the agreement, making you liable for any disappointment in, or damages caused by, your rescue dog.

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1. Your rescue dog requires a break-in period that may last anywhere from a few weeks to a few years.

2. During this break-in period it would not be unusual for your rescue dog to exhibit one or more of the following behaviors:

  1. Fearful posturing or cowering
  2. Hiding
  3. Barking at unfamiliar noises
  4. Ignoring you
  5. Clinging to you, also know as “shadowing”
  6. General unresponsiveness, also known as “shutting down”
  7. Food avoidance
  8. Food gorging
  9. Self-stimulation, including licking, tail-chasing, spinning, scratching, and teething
  10. Marking territory with urine, feces, saliva, or nail scratches.
  11. Pacing, particularly at night
  12. Hoarding toys or household items

3. During this break-in period, your dog may manifest physical symptoms associated with nervousness including, but not limited to episodes of:

  1. Diarrhea
  2. Vomiting
  3. Rapid and extensive hair shedding, also known as “blowing the coat”

Note: Physical symptoms may not necessarily be caused by nervousness. If you suspect your dog may be ill, consult your veterinarian.

4. Or, your dog may not display any weird behavior at all during the break-in period. However, do not expect your dog’s true and normal range of behavior to fully manifest in the first weeks and months after arriving in your home. Dogs can and will mask or suppress certain behaviors as they size up their new owners and determine what is and is not acceptable. In some cases, it may take years before a rescue dog reveals its full range of behavior.

Do not be scared, proud owner of a newly rescued dog. Dogs are one of the most adaptable creatures on earth. Even if your rescue dog seems to act strangely, or a little “off” when he or she first enters your home, in time your dog will adapt. See: New Hope for Rescued Small Dogs for an example of how a rescued dog can thrive in a good home.

The amount of time it takes for your new dog to adapt depends on three key factors:

  1. The experiences/trauma your dog went through prior to reaching your home;
  2. Genetics; and,
  3. How you respond to your dog during his/her break-in period.

You cannot do anything about what happened to your dog before it reached your home. You cannot alter your dog’s genetics. You are, however, in complete control of what happens after your dog arrives in your home. That is the subject of my next article.

Take Action:

1. If you have taken in a rescue dog, start a journal about his or her behavior. A journal will help you objectively track your dog’s mannerisms and habits. If you are diligent about tracking your dog’s behavior, you will note, over time, how well your dog is adapting to his/her environment. Journaling positive steps in your dog’s progress is good for your spirit, and that good energy will transfer to your dog.

2. Watch this website for my next article on how to cope with weird dog behavior. It will help you and your rescued dog adapt.


Tell Us What You Think

We owners of rescued dogs need support. Tell us how your rescued dog improved over time by adding to the comments section below. We’d love to hear your story.