Thank you for your loyalty and participation in AsmallDog.com. I no longer have the time or resources to continue this website, and so it must end. Take care and best of luck to you.
Jeff
Thank you for your loyalty and participation in AsmallDog.com. I no longer have the time or resources to continue this website, and so it must end. Take care and best of luck to you.
Jeff
The short answer is, I transferred the site to a different web hosting account and, to put it mildly, the transfer did not go smoothly. Due to my limited website management skills, it took almost a week to resurrect the site in the new account. But, we are back and ready to get to work again, tackling your problems and listening to your ideas about small dog care, training, and behavior. Glad to be back!
I know it’s a bit past Halloween, but I couldn’t pass up posting these photos from Heidi and her sweet Maltese, Casper. Casper is actually a star in his own right. You can see videos of him at his own YouTube channel here: Casper on YouTube.
He has his own website as well, called DoodleApproval.com, where you can seek his advice on any concern you might have.
Thank you Heidi for sending these in. Do you have a good shot from Halloween? If so, send them to ideas@asmalldog.com.
Hey small dog lovers,
We just got back from Aruba in the Dutch Antilles, or as my lovely wife says, “Arroooba, dahlink.” She’s not Hungarian. She’s from South Carolina. Go figure.
Traveling around the capital city of Oranjestad, we noticed a complete absence of dogs, small, big, domestic, stray. None. Nada. I know the Dutch love their dogs, so I’m sure the pups were around there somewhere. We just didn’t see any.
The closest I came to anything resembling a small dog was the iguana, (photo above,) who thought he was a canine. Kind of tough to pet though.
I’m not what you would call the weepy type. Like most guys, I tend to put my emotions on the back burner. It takes quite a bit to get me choked up.
Awhile back I wrote an article for this website about putting an old dog to sleep, and then posted a copy to ezinearticles.com. While the original posting on this website, (which you can find here,) never drew any comments, the ezine article had a bunch. I was unaware of the comments until today. When I received an email from ezinearticles.com that I had a new comment, I went to the site and saw what had come in over the past few months. I was hit by a wave of emotion.
I don’t know if you keep your own blog. If you do, you know it takes work—a lot of work—to keep it current and relevant. There may be times when you have had the thought that it is too much work, and maybe it would be better to just shut it down and pursue other interests. I’ll admit I’ve had those thoughts many times, especially since my blog does not get very many comments. I’ll begin to wonder whether my words are reaching anyone, then something like this happens:
“I’m so glad I found this article. I put my 16 1/2 year old shih tzu mix to sleep yesterday and the pain I am feeling is unbelievable. However, your words give me some peace and comfort when I desperately need it, so thank you.” Maria Bebee
“This article was very helpful. My husband and I had to put our wonderful dog Willa (a black lab mix) to sleep 12 days ago. He was 15 years old. It was a very difficult decision. He was my shadow and we miss him so much, but this article made me understand even more that it was the right time to let him go. Thank you.” Lisa
“I had to put my 16 year old dog Maggie to sleep 2 days ago. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. I stayed with her throughout and brought her home with me. Your article described her perfectly towards the end, and helped me make sense of what I had had to do. Thank you for helping me realise that it was the kindest thing I could do for her.” Lisa Ball
“This article helped me make the hardest decision I have had to make. My Dakota crossed the rainbow bridge today after being a faithful friend for almost 15 years. I was blessed to have him in my life for this long. Thank you so much for writing this…..I think it will help many people who have to go thought this.” Natalie
“Thank you for this article. We are facing this with our two 16 1/2-year-old dachshunds; while we know all this rationally, it’s very hard to figure out “the right time.” “You’ll know,” everyone says, but I’m not sure that’s exactly correct. Meanwhile, we are exhausting ourselves to try to make sure they are OK. Sigh.” Liz
All I can add is, you’re welcome, and I’m sorry for your loss.
Jeff
Small dogs in Halloween costumes! Where’s yours? Send your photo to ideas@asmalldog.com.
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The Moral of the Story is . . .
You can teach morality to a dog, or more correctly, you can teach your version of morality. You do this by rewarding certain behaviors, and ignoring or punishing other behaviors. Even after training, your dog will not have a moral code, per se. He will learn to behave in ways that you believe are right, and avoid behaviors you believe are wrong.
I bring this up because some of us believe our dogs are “bad.” We believe they intentionally do things to violate our trust, try our patience, and challenge our authority. When a dog violates our trust or tries our patience, he is not carrying on an internal conversation with himself to the tune of “Let’s drive the human crazy!” A violation of trust or test of our patience is our own human interpretation of what the dog is doing. The dog is just doing what comes naturally to a dog.
It Makes No Sense, Even for A Dog
Let’s talk about dog behavior that simply makes no sense to us. Rescued dogs often enter our lives with a broad repertoire of what we might call “weird behavior.” Examples:
The list goes on.
It Does Make Sense—To the Dog
How are any of these weird behaviors helping the dog? Answer: they all help the dog cope with stress. For example, when a dog hides under the bed, he is placing a barrier between himself and whatever he feels is threatening. A dog that barks incessantly can either be:
Each example of weird behavior is not weird for the dog when the behavior is placed in context. It’s not hard to guess a rescued dog’s context. It’s past life was unstable, to say the least. When it first arrives in your home, it has no idea what to expect. Combine past troubles with the uncertainty of here and now, and you get a nervous dog. Further, and this is even more likely, many of the weird behaviors you see in your rescued dog were probably established well before he arrived in your home.
What We Do
The two common human responses to weird dog behavior are:
If you worry and fret over your dog’s weird behavior, the natural human response is to try and comfort the dog. When you hug and pet a dog that is acting strangely, your response rewards and reinforces the dog’s weird behavior. Remember, dogs only do what works for them. If whining and pacing invites comforting strokes from a human, then pacing and whining works for the dog. It’s going to continue.
If your response to incessant barking is a frustrated outburst of anger, you’ve just poured gasoline on your dog’s fire. The dog’s stress will magnify. The barking will no doubt stop for a moment because your outburst startled the dog. Once the initial shock is over, your dog is likely to resume barking, probably at a higher pitch.
The Answer, in Two-Part Harmony
What’s the answer? It’s twofold. First, as long as your dog’s weird behavior is not causing any damage to the dog, yourself, your family, your neighbors, or your house, ignore the bad behavior. Your goal is to not give your dog any more reason to continue or magnify the behavior. Second, you must give the dog something better to do—a substitute behavior.
I’ll get into how to substitute another behavior in my next article. For now, these are the take-aways:
When your rescued dog acts strangely, realize:
He’s not plotting to drive you insane, he’s just being a dog;
It’s a product of his past, plus his uncertainty about the present;
Your worried or angry response will only make his behavior worse.
Tell Us What You Think:
The rest of your small dog community would like to know how your dog behaves strangely and why you think he’s doing this. Let us know by writing a quick blurb in the comments section below this article. At the very least, write something–anything–to let me know you are alive and thinking about this article.
*The opinions expressed in this article are my own and not necessarily those of the provider of the attached photograph. I make no claim that the dog pictured is a rescue animal, nor that it has any problems whatsoever.
Jeff
Thank you.
Jeff (more…)